Managing Adversity

Dec 272011
 
Worry by Murielle

As 2011 ends and 2012 approaches, it is a time to reflect. Despite the festive season, not all is rosy in the world today. Many of the major powers are facing problems of their own and how they manage will affect the rest of the world. This situation can be a cause for worry because they do not seem to be managing well.

While a little worry makes you cautious and instils prudence, too much worry can cripple you. For much of my life, I was a worrier. When faced with a problem whose outcome mattered to me, I could spend countless hours brooding over the worst-case scenarios.

But worrying alone does not change things. This was a lesson that I took many years to learn. I still worry today, but I no longer do so in excess. Instead, by understanding the nature of worry, I ensure that it does not work against me. How then can you deal with worry in a more effective way?
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Dec 132011
 
Storm Clouds by Failing Angel

It is generally not a good idea to have any favourites. This way, you will not favour one thing over another and have bias in your actions. Even so, one of my favourite changes in life is the time of deliverance.

How can I not like it? After a period of difficulty and hardship, tensions begin to ease; things take a turn for the better. I have survived a time of danger and am now on the threshold of reaching my goals. But here it pays to be cautious and manage well to avoid snatching defeat from the jaws of victory. Complacency can be my undoing. How then should you manage a time of deliverance?
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Nov 302011
 
Flowing River by Joel Davies

Everything has a Tao. A situation may have a Tao, but how the people involved manage and deal with it is unique to them. The best way to act in accord with the Tao of a situation depends on the person involved. Factors such as goals, interests, beliefs, circumstances and creativity affect the choices open to them. What is the best choice for one may not be in the best interests of another.

Even so, when it comes to managing any situation, there are a few key steps. It does not really matter whether the situation is simple or complex. When you break it down, these are the basic steps to manage any situation.
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Nov 222011
 
Sensing the Tao by Halofan943

Before I can write about how to manage the Tao of a situation, I feel it is good to share how one can be aware of the Tao. This question came up in my previous article on the Tao of Fish and Chips. It is a habit and a curiosity of mine to try to see to the core of situations that interest me. As such, my radar is on when it is important. If it is not, sometimes I notice the Tao and at other times, I do not.

As I said before, the Tao need not be an abstract or esoteric concept. It is practical to be aware of it if you wish to make the best choices in a given situation. Here then is the approach I take to be more aware of the Tao.
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Nov 092011
 
Fish and Chips by Christian Tan

I stood in the eye of the storm and calmly watched the chaos and confusion around me. When an opening appeared, I acted quickly to seize it. Everything I did had a specific goal. I was truly living in the moment and acting as the situation required. I made almost no wasted movement and did not do more than necessary. I knew exactly what I needed to do and when to do it. Because I could see and follow the flow of the energy around me, I achieved my goal with ease and very little hassle. What was my goal in this case? It was to order a plate of fish and chips for lunch.
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Oct 282011
 
Nanjing Road in the Rain by 23 Hours

As I prepared to head out of the door for lunch, my spider-sense tingled. Actually, it was my hand phone vibrating in my pocket. It turned out that my best friend needed a listening ear. And so, I called my best friend to do what I do best, listen. As I extended my broad and comforting presence to my friend in need, the sky darkened. Lightning flashed and thunder rumbled as the heavens opened. I sighed…Singapore was having yet another flash flood.

Half an hour later, the conversation ended, but the rain showed no sign of stopping. In fact, it seemed to take a perverse pleasure in getting heavier. It was late and I was hungry. I could not sit around waiting for the rain to stop. And so, cursing under my breath, I stepped out of the house with an umbrella. It was of little use. Although my brolly shielded my head from the rain, the winds just blew the rain right into my face instead, making my front wet. At least my back was dry. I did not dare to tempt the fates by saying “What else can go wrong?” The last thing I wanted was to wrestle with an umbrella turned inside out in the pouring rain. At this point, I could not appreciate how Bollywood movies made the rain seem like so much fun.
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Jul 302011
 
A New Dawn by Jiri

Hexagram 47 Oppression

Hexagram 47 by Ben Finney

Times of adversity are the reverse of times of success, but they can lead to success if they befall the right man. When a strong man meets with adversity, he remains cheerful despite all danger, and this cheerfulness is the source of later successes; it is that stability which is stronger than fate. He who lets his spirit be broken by exhaustion certainly has no success. But if adversity only bends a man, it creates in him a power to react that is bound in time to manifest itself.

No inferior man is capable of this. Only the great man brings about good fortune and remains blameless. It is true that for the time being outward influence is denied him, because his words have no effect. Therefore in times of adversity it is important to be strong within and sparing of words.

-Hexagram 47 from The I-Ching or Book of Changes Translated by Richard Wilhelm, Cary F. Baynes. New Jersey: Princeton University Press, 1997.
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May 262011
 
Dark Night by Mbarrison

Problems are a part of life. Every day, we have to face problems in various shapes and forms. It could be something simple and mundane like trying to deal with a virus in our PCs. Or it could be something more complicated like relationships. It could also be problems at work or something on a larger scale like unrest in the Middle East. All of these are problems that affect our lives directly or indirectly. While we can avoid some of these problems, we cannot avoid them all. Eventually, we will have to stand and fight.

In truth, facing problems is not such a bad thing. Since we cannot avoid all the problems or adversity in life, to be able to master challenges is a vital life skill. Our ability in this area determines whether we will be able to attain our goals and protect our interests. It determines whether life will shape or break us. As such, it makes perfect sense to master the challenges of life for the following reasons.
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May 182011
 
Timing by Ben Harrington

Many factors lead to victory and success in life, but one of the key factors is timing. Knowing when to act is critical in anything you do. If you are aware of the importance of timing, you are likelier to attain success. But if you ignore the importance of timing, success is an uphill struggle. What then is timing and how does it influence your success?
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Apr 072011
 
Cow by Maraker

All of us have hopes and dreams, but the process of making them a reality is not easy. On our journey towards our goals, we are likely to face various obstructions that block our path. Take the case of 15-year-old Regina Mayer. Her dream is to ride a horse, but her parents refused to get her one. Undaunted, the resourceful teen made do with riding a cow named Luna instead.

Riding a cow is certainly not surprising. But if you are like me, you probably never heard of people riding a cow like a horse to do jumps. I certainly had to see the remarkable video for myself. In the end, this incident is instructive. It shows that when we face obstruction to our plans, the best course of action is to find other options.
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