Self-Control

Depressed and Lonely by Luis Sarabia

When Evelyn asked me to write an article on self-love, I hesitated for a moment. For me, it feels weird for a guy to talk about self-love. But I am well aware that this is merely a view that I have about how guys should behave. But if there is a good enough reason, I am always more than willing to change my views. In this case, I feel it is worth it because some of my readers might just benefit from my experiences. As I wrote this article, it seems that I have a fair amount to say about self-love, making this is my longest post yet. The funny thing is, when I began my journey of self-discovery, I did not set out to find self-love. My holy grail was inner peace. Yet in the process, I learned about self-love as well.
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Mini Spicy Shrimp Rolls by Su-Lin

Chinese New Year (CNY) is a big thing in Singapore. Apart from the red packets, there is always the food, which seems to come in endless supply. It would be easy to avoid overeating by if I could avoid temptation. Unfortunately, this is the time where we visit people or people come to visit to catch up. Now all good hosts know it is their sacred duty to provide CNY goodies. It is unthinkable to have no CNY goodies to serve the hungry guests. Thankfully, I am not that big on CNY goodies. Even so, I still have a few weaknesses that I cannot resist. The names of these criminals are pineapple tarts and dried shrimp rolls. Since I cannot avoid temptation, I have compiled a list of measures to deal with it.
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Learning to Let Go by Indigo

Question: What do a dictator and an annoying house guest have in common?
Answer: They do not know when to leave.

The recent unrest in Egypt has set me thinking. It is not easy to let go and call it quits. In fact, it is far easier to overstay our welcome only to find ourselves thrown out. In social settings, we may have the awareness needed to know when to go. But when the situation involves money and power, it is harder to know where to draw the line. This problem is not only common in our age. Countless people before us have clung onto power and money longer than they should. In fact, thousands of years ago, Lao Zi addressed this issue in the Tao Te Ching.
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Piano Lesson by Amazing Podgirl

When I was a little boy, I struggled with perseverance. I would begin a new project eagerly, but midway through I lost interest and gave up. One example was when I took up piano lessons. I cannot remember what inspired me to do so, but I must have gotten it into my head that playing the piano was cool. Soon, harsh reality set in and I realized that I needed to put in practice and hard work to look cool. It was too much effort for me. I quickly grew bored and resented missing my favourite cartoon shows during my lessons. In the end, I gave up and never played the piano again.

Upon reflection, I realized that I wanted to learn to play the piano based on a whim. But whims do not give you staying power when you face difficulties. Instead, I believe that having a burning purpose behind everything you do is the key to perseverance. When you know why you have to do something, you will get it done. Few odds can stop you from achieving your goals. Even so, it also helps to have other gentle reminders to keep you focused when the going gets tough. I have carefully selected some quotes on perseverance that I find inspiring. It is my hope and wish that these quotes will inspire you to persevere in the face of challenges as it has for me.
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Anger is a difficult emotion to control. When you are livid with rage, you lose your ability to reason and turn into a monster. You shout, you rage, you smash things and cause destruction. In our calm state, we would be appalled when someone behaves like a raving lunatic. Yet when it comes to our own tempers, it is hard to take such a detached perspective. Thankfully, the Incredible Hulk, the poster boy for anger and destruction, has much to teach us about losing our tempers. Read on to learn about the dangers of letting our anger control us.
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A lack of self-control can easily lead to a person’s undoing. I explored this issue when I wrote about Darth Vader and his lack of self-control. The importance of self-control cannot be overstated. Those who have it are likelier to reach their goals than those who do not. Yet it is easy to lose sight of the need for self-control as we go about our daily lives. What I have gathered here in this post is a selection of quotes on self-control that you can reflect upon when you need it.
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Darth Vader by Andres Rueda

Many people know Darth Vader; a cultural icon and poster boy for villainy. His is a tragic story of a hero turned evil in an attempt to save the life of his beloved wife. Before he became Darth Vader, Anakin Skywalker trained as a Jedi Knight in the use of the Force. All Jedi Knights had to conquer themselves and learn self-control. But Anakin’s inability to master himself led him down the path to the dark side. What is striking about this cautionary tale is how easily anyone can make the mistakes that Anakin did. Read on to find about the dangers of lacking in self-control.
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Tokugawa Ieyasu was famous for his patience. His patience was so great that he persisted at his goal to unite Japan until he achieved it at the age of 60. In the process, he survived all his fearsome rivals by waiting for the right moment to seize power. It is for his great patience and strength to bear great hardship that makes him one of my heroes. What was the secret of his incredible patience? In the quote that follows, Tokugawa reveals the secret to his descendants.
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I have always admired Tokugawa Ieyasu. He established the Tokugawa Shogunate which went on to rule Japan in the name of the emperor for 250 years. But during his lifetime, this outcome was far from certain. There were many rivals who surpassed him in skill and might. But by being in harmony with the time and circumstances, Tokugawa survived all his rivals to unite Japan. What follows is a quote that shows how he coped with the difficulties he faced in life.
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Waiting by Rachel K

In this day and age most of us are used to instant results. Everything has to be done yesterday. Additionally, many of us lead such stressful lives that the slightest hindrance provokes annoyance and frustration. Since I am the product of my age, I too have struggled with impatience. The 4 minute wait for the next train or long queues at cinemas used to irritate me years ago.

But over time, I have learned to be a little more patient. Being patient allows me to maintain my clarity of mind. It also enables me to see into the heart of the matter, thus finding the best solution or rising above it. Thankfully, patience, like all things, is an art which anybody can learn. The following are some ways that I have used to become more patient:
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