Self-Mastery

Dec 152010
 
Cup of Tea by Yuki-Ona

Listening is an important skill to have in life. Yet we do not always do it properly. Our failure to listen well can affect our relationships and cause misunderstandings. One factor that hinders our ability to listen is a saturated mind. When the mind is full of opinions, it is hard for anything else to go in. To better illustrate this point, let me share with you a story.
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Nov 252010
 

An assumption is something that we take for granted without bothering to find proof to support it. Assumptions are necessary. We have to assume many things to go about our daily lives. This is because we do not have the time and energy to challenge or to worry about every matter that comes our way. Unless we take certain things for granted, it would be very difficult to live. But making too many assumptions can also cause us problems. In this article, I shall address the dangers of assumptions.
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Nov 132010
 
Boston Businessman by Niccolo Caranti

I love routines because they are convenient. They help me to get something done without much thought or effort on my part. This means that I can conserve my energy for more important matters. But routines are a double-edged sword. While they have their uses, an overreliance on them will cause us to be stuck in a rut. To avoid this situation, it is beneficial to changes our routines from time to time. Before I discuss some simple changes we can make to our routines, let us look at some of the benefits that come with a change in routine.
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Oct 262010
 

When you face a challenge or a problem, you can choose to focus on the problem or the solution. Focusing on the problem rarely helps matters. Instead, it only wastes your time and energy as you go over it repeatedly in your mind. Brooding in such a manner leaves you exhausted from fear and worry. It also prevents you from taking decisive action. As it is, the problem is a fact that is unlikely to go away no matter how hard you brood. Since that is the case, it is better to focus on the solution instead. Read on to learn the benefits of focusing on the solution instead of the problem.
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Oct 232010
 

Lately, I have been reading Frank Herbert’s Dune. It is a great science-fiction masterpiece. As I was reading for pleasure, I did not expect to find a helpful litany on dealing with fear. I am sure that many of us are familiar with fear. In fact, I learned from my friend’s blog post that there is even a day dedicated to facing your fears.

Fear comes in all shapes and sizes. There is fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of public speaking and so on. Feeling fear helps to prepare us to face a threat or danger. But taken to extremes, our fear can paralyze us. What follows is the way I have been using the litany to calm my fears. Read on to find out how I did it.
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Sep 282010
 

The final stage of changing a bad habit is making sure the change is permanent. It is pointless to make that change based on willpower alone only to lapse back to your old ways when your guard is down. The change has to be lasting and effortless. During my quest to change my habit of viewing failure in a negative light, I employed a few strategies. Read on to find out what they were.
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Sep 232010
 

If you know why you have to change a bad habit and desire to do so, you can make careful plans to bring about that change. After which, the next logical step is to take action and execute those plans. But the change will not happen easily. You will find yourself up against great resistance and inertia. To succeed you have to proceed carefully and methodically to whittle down the hold that your bad habit has over you. Read on to find out how I changed my bad habit of viewing failure in a negative light.
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Sep 202010
 

Planning is vital to success of any endeavour. As a bad habit is so deeply ingrained in your nature, you need to prepare well before you can change it. Planning gives you clarity about your goals and the means to reach it. It helps you to pre-empt likely problems before they arise. When you are dealing with something as difficult as changing a bad habit, you cannot afford to go about it in a haphazard manner. Read on to find out how I changed my bad habit of viewing failure in a negative light.
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Sep 172010
 

Bad Habits by Rachel K

Changing a habit is difficult. Changing a bad habit that is deeply ingrained is probably one of the hardest things to do. A habit after all is a learned behaviour that is almost involuntary. On the one hand, a habit helps to save you time and energy when you face a familiar situation. On the other hand, a bad habit can cause you many problems in your life. Although it is hard to change bad habits, it is not impossible to do so. The first thing you need is to be very clear about your motivations for wanting to change.
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Sep 112010
 
Despair by naktouf

Criticism is a double-edged sword; it has the power to help or destroy you. But what it does to you depends on how well you manage the criticism. There are times when you have to ask for constructive criticism. Yet there are also times where you may find yourself receiving unsolicited criticism. You can’t stop people from thinking or saying what they wish. The only thing you can do is to control your own perception of the criticism and turn it to your advantage. No one likes to be criticised. But there are insights contained within constructive criticism that can help you to succeed. Remember this benefit. Since you can’t run away from criticism, it would be best to learn how to manage it well.
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