Problems are a part of life. Every day, we have to face problems in various shapes and forms. It could be something simple and mundane like trying to deal with a virus in our PCs. Or it could be something more complicated like relationships. It could also be problems at work or something on a larger scale like unrest in the Middle East. All of these are problems that affect our lives directly or indirectly. While we can avoid some of these problems, we cannot avoid them all. Eventually, we will have to stand and fight.
In truth, facing problems is not such a bad thing. Since we cannot avoid all the problems or adversity in life, to be able to master challenges is a vital life skill. Our ability in this area determines whether we will be able to attain our goals and protect our interests. It determines whether life will shape or break us. As such, it makes perfect sense to master the challenges of life for the following reasons.
1. Problems are a Part of Life
Problems are a part of life; we cannot run away or avoid them forever. Even if we can avoid one or a few hurdles, we cannot avoid them all. There might be times when it is more prudent to retreat, but make no mistake; this is merely a temporary measure. At some point, we will have no choice but to face our problems. Then we have to stand and fight to resolve matters, preferably at a time and place of our choosing. This is actually a good thing because our goals, hopes and dreams lie on the other side of those challenges. When we get through adversity, we attain our deepest desire. This is the reward of never giving up and letting nothing stand in the way of reaching our goals.
2. Invaluable Experience and Wisdom
That which does not kill us makes us stronger. –Friedrich Nietzsche
Avoiding important problems in our lives does us little good. Without the challenge from our problems to stretch us, we learning nothing new and gain no further insights into life. As a result, not only does the problem remain, we miss a chance to grow. We do not know the best choices to make in a difficult situation and have little idea of how to manage change well. A human body needs constant usage to prevent muscular atrophy. Similarly, we will not be able to manage difficulties if we keep avoiding problems. We simply do not have the wisdom that comes with experience to do so.
Nothing shapes and changes us like adversity. With each problem that we face, manage and resolve, we become more than we were. We know what to do and when to do it. Not only do we grow in experience and wisdom, we also gain a greater capacity to cope with difficulties. Like a seasoned veteran, there is little that we cannot manage. This is most useful when we are striving to attain our goals or to protect our loved ones and interests. Nothing can overwhelm us when it matters the most.
The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. –Franklin Roosevelt
Problems usually involve the unknown. If we knew how to manage problems, they would not be problems or unknown in the first place. As with any unknown, there is always the fear of the unknown that comes with it. The more we avoid adversity, the greater our fear and doubt in ourselves become. Thus, when we face a problem that we cannot avoid, we will lack the confidence needed to manage it well. Here our fear and doubts can overwhelm us and cause us to make mistakes due to our clouded judgment.
Fear comes from uncertainty while certainty brings confidence. Facing each problem that comes our way not only resolves the issues in our lives, it also gives us confidence to manage future troubles. In the face of grave adversity, it is vital that we trust ourselves. Only by doing so can we be calm and maintain our composure to succeed. So take each challenge you face as a chance to hone your confidence. With confidence in yourself, you can master the challenges of life.
4. Spirit and Will
The greatest assets that we can have in dealing with challenges are our spirit and willpower. When the going is the hardest, our spirit and willpower allow us to hold on and get back up. It is because of our spirit and will that we can persevere long enough to succeed. Yet having an undying spirit and an iron will does not happen miraculously. We need the fires of adversity to forge our spirit and will. Therefore, the more problems we manage and overcome, the stronger our spirit and will becomes. With this increased capacity, we can manage anything in life.
How do you feel about problems and challenges? Do you feel there are there to help you learn and grow? Or do you see problems and challenges as the bane of your life? Do share your thoughts and comments below!