The final stage of changing a bad habit is making sure the change is permanent. It is pointless to make that change based on willpower alone only to lapse back to your old ways when your guard is down. The change has to be lasting and effortless. During my quest to change my habit of viewing failure in a negative light, I employed a few strategies. Read on to find out what they were.
Being able to adapt was crucial to changing my negative view of failure. On days when I was in good spirits, I found it easier to shrug off the mistakes I made and focus on finding the solutions. Here, I noted the cause of my good spirits so that I could recreate it when I needed to. On days when my spirits were low, I struggled to maintain my focus. I had to put in great effort to prevent my failures from overwhelming me. Here, I turned to a member of my support group for much needed encouragement.
As far as possible, do not force matters. Instead, adapt to the situation as needed. Always focus on the solution and not the problem. In time, you will know what works best for you and what does not. There will come a day when you no longer need the strong measures you took during the early stage of your change. Just adjust and refine your plan to ensure your change is lasting. What you needed at the start will not be the same as what you need at the end. To succeed you have to adapt as the times demand.
Dealing with Slips
Slips happen from time to time. At first, it was hard to make it past the first few weeks without slipping. I found it hard to focus on the solutions whenever I faced failure. Instead, my reflex action was to feel discouraged. To chart my progress, I made sure I noted what happened in my notebook. Then I shrugged it off and tried again. With time and practice, I made less slips.
As the weeks became months, I noticed that the few slips I made were due to complacency. I no longer followed my plan as closely as before. This caused me to go back to my old ways as my change was not yet complete. With my original purpose in mind, I sat down to review and adjust my plan once more. I replaced the quotes and the role models that no longer inspired me with new ones. I also discussed new ways that my support group could help. With these measures in place, I had the drive to press on again.
Expect slips along the way. Do not be discouraged or disheartened just because you slipped. It is not a big deal. Slips are merely signs that you lost focus for a moment. Know where and why you slipped and take measures to ensure it does not happen again. Then, pick yourself up and try once more. The important thing is not to give up. Keep on trying until you have successfully changed your bad habit. Success comes about when your desired behaviour is a natural reflex on your part with little conscious effort.
My quest to change my bad habit has not been easy. After all, I behaved in this manner for years. Even if my habit was not effective, it was still familiar and comfortable. Along the way, there were always a 1001 reasons to give up. Thankfully, I prepared for this and had a few pillars in place to prevent me from doing so. Firstly, I had my purpose and reasons for change. Secondly, I had my support group to make sure I changed. Lastly, I immersed myself in the change I wanted to make it second nature. These factors kept me going through the weeks and months. By continually persevering, I managed to overcome my negative view of failure.
To succeed at anything, you have to see it through to the end. Do not try to achieve everything at once or hope for quick and easy results. Only when the foundations are solid can you hope to have a lasting change in habit. Therefore, you cannot give up halfway no matter how tough the going is. As long as you keep working at it, you will have a chance of success. But if you give up, you will have absolutely no hope of succeeding. The only way for any change to be lasting is to persevere.
Changing a bad habit is hard but not impossible. Recently, I came across an article in the papers about how a celebrity’s business venture had gone bust. Instead of viewing it as a failure and feeling sorry for her, I actually thought it would be a good learning experience for her. If she learned from her mistakes, she would do even better the next time round. With this reflex view of failure, I had finally obtained my holy grail. I no longer viewed failure in a bad light. Now as long as you never give up and adapt with the times, you too can change your bad habit as well.