The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re still alive. -Orlando A. Battista
I have always liked to read. It is through the writings and records of others that I can see and experience things that are not possible otherwise. Take history for example. By reading the writings of long ago, I am able to travel the world to bygone eras in a flash.
But history is not the only thing I like to read. What I really appreciate is letters from loved ones. Our time here on Earth is finite. We never know which precious moment will be our last. Yet for some strange reason, we do not make full use of each moment. We do not let our loved ones know how much we appreciate them as often as we should. While telling them verbally is the minimum requirement, it is better to let them know through letters from time to time. It is only through writing that we can immortalize our thoughts and feelings.
Immortalizing Each Moment
Writing a heartfelt letter takes time. It makes you pause to reflect on why you value the recipient at the given time. Each moment contains many instances for gratefulness. Unless you make the effort to acknowledge and record these moments, they will just pass you by.
While you could and should tell your loved one how much you appreciate them verbally, words are easy to forget. Words are after all nothing more than hot air without actions to back them up. Unlike words that fade with time, a letter captures and immortalizes a moment. If the situation is worth remembering, then putting down what you think and feel in a letter makes it last a much longer time. It is something your loved one can reread whenever they feel like it. I have personally reread meaningful letters many times.
Immortalizing Thoughts and Feelings
Letters are the perfect chance to say all that you want and need to say. While our loved ones should know us better than others, we cannot assume that they will always know what we think or feel. People are not mind readers. We cannot expect our loved ones to read our minds or to know what we do not say. Even if they knew, it is still a good idea to reaffirm that knowledge by writing it out. This is a great way to show your appreciation for them.
A Unique Legacy
When I was younger, I was very proud of a book of love letters that I owned. Being young and impressionable, I tried to copy the style of great men who wrote love letters. In particular, I liked the style of Napoleon Bonaparte for his passion towards his wife Josephine. But over time, I came to realize that his style was not my style. In the end, it is far better for me to write in a way that comes naturally.
Each letter you write is the sum of your influences and experiences. It reflects your unique style and view of the world. All that you need to write a meaningful letter is sincerity. Write from the heart as if you were having a heartfelt talk with your loved one. Write clearly, honestly and openly. Share your inner world with the people you love. As long as they keep these letters, your loved ones will always have a part of you that they can carry with them years into the future. Through your letters, they will always have good memories that you leave behind.
Letter or Email?
While it is faster to write an email, a letter is more meaningful because of the effort involved. Still, the key point here is to record your thoughts and feelings for the people you love through writing. The medium you use is not so important. A heartfelt email due to daily life constrains is better than not writing or expressing yourself at all. But it would still be a good idea to put in the effort to write a letter from time to time. Your loved ones will appreciate you even more for it.
What are your views on writing? Do you write often to your love ones? Do you express your innermost thoughts? Is email or letters better for you? Or do you do a mixture of both? What other ways do you know of to show your appreciation? How else do you immortalize each moment? Do share your thoughts and comments below!