Regrets can haunt and torment us long after the incidents have occurred. They can shackle us to the past and affect us at the worst possible moments. I am not fond of having regrets in my life because I know the pain it can cause. As far as I am able to, I make it a point to reduce the “what ifs” and “should haves” from my life. I live each moment as fully as I can and act decisively when I must. While my style of doing things may not appeal to all, it has helped me to live a life without regrets. I hope that what I share will do the same for you too.
Taking responsibility is the first step to living a life without regrets. We alone are responsible for the lives that we lead. Therefore, it is up to us to create the life that we want. Yet this is not easy because we will receive well-meaning advice from people about what we should or should not do. It is well and good to be open to advice. But we must decide the course of action to take for ourselves. By taking charge of our lives in this manner, we will live by our own terms and not by the terms of others.
Managing Doubts and Fears
Our self-doubts and fears can cause us to have regrets. Some of us may fear change and the unknown. Others may fear failure. But doubts and fears are natural. They instill caution in us so that we do not endanger ourselves recklessly. Yet these very doubts and fears can hold us back and cause us to miss opportunities if we allow them to overwhelm us. We cannot rid ourselves of our doubts and fears fully, but we can learn to manage them well. To this end, it pays to focus on the solution and not the problem when we have doubts. It also helps to see failure as a stepping-stone to success. When we control our doubts and fears, we will have the ability to avoid regrets.
Being aware of your priorities and goals in life is important to avoid regrets. If we are not clear about these things, we will miss many vital opportunities that come our way. Some questions to bear in mind are as follows. Will your action or inaction cause you to look back in regret many years down the road? Would what you do or don’t do have a significant impact on your life? Having clarity about these matters helps you to plan your next move.
Small matters do not require that much thought or planning. But life changing matters with much at stake require more prudence. Seizing the moment or opportunity is not the same as being reckless especially when we have much to lose. In this case, we need to be aware of the possibilities and the consequences of our actions in the long term. This will help us to take calculated risks that are likelier to succeed. At the same time, we can also avoid making hasty decisions that lead to regret.
Seize the Moment
Opportunity does not always come knocking. If we miss the moment, we may never have another chance again. This is why it is better to act instead of procrastinating. For the little things, this is perfectly fine as long as we are clear about our goals and the big picture. But for life changing events, we may have to break down the situation into small and manageable pieces that we can handle. As long as we do something to further our goals today, even if it is just taking small steps, we will avoid having regrets in the future.
Prevention is always better than cure. If we can prevent or minimize the regrets in our lives, we would be happier. Not appreciating the people and things that we have can lead to regrets. It could be that we take our loved ones for granted. Or it could be that we do not value our possessions until we lose them. Thankfully, it is within our power to avoid having regrets in these areas. All it takes is for us to treasure and give thanks for what we have. By doing so, we become more aware of what is important in our lives. When we cherish each moment to the fullest, there is no room for regret.
There are certain moments in life that can never return once we miss them. There are certain failures that we cannot remedy no matter how hard we try. To have regrets here would not do us any good. Yet we cannot let go if we do not change our perception. Here, it helps to view these events as lessons that we need to learn so that we can grow. It is these lessons that have made us who we are today. The price may be heavy, but let us not make the mistake of paying for this regret repeatedly.
Regrets and the pain it causes have no place or useful purpose in our lives. There is no need to carry a burden on our shoulders or shackle ourselves to the past. By taking measures to avoid and to deal with regrets, we can all lead healthier and happier lives.
How do you avoid having regrets in life? What are the ways that you use to manage the regrets you have? Do share your thoughts and comments below.