The way we perceive and remember events is unique to us. Two people can share a unique and pleasant experience together and yet walk away with different memories of that event. Let us say that a couple had a wonderful date together. This does not mean that they will have the exact same view or memories of events. Their memories might focus on different parts of the date that matters to them. As time passes, they might remember the date in different ways for different reasons.
Memories are unique. It links our past, present and future together with all those who are a vital part of our lives. But the sad truth is that no one will really know what our full thoughts and memories are except ourselves. That is unless we do something about it.
The Problem with Filters
It is no secret that each of us sees the world through our own unique filters. Our natures, environment, influences and experiences make us who we are. We are unique in our own ways. As such, two people may never see the same event in the same way.
This is something we all know and realize subconsciously. But it is also easy to forget this in our daily lives. More often than not, we take it for granted that others see things the way we do. We assume that the people who are close to us appreciate and understand our perspectives. Yet no one is a mind reader. Unless, they hear it from us, how can anyone know what we really think or feel? How can anyone know the full extent of our experiences unless we share our inner worlds?
The Benefits of Sharing Your Inner World
Sharing your memories, your inner world is the best gift you can give to your loved ones. After all, this is who you are and how you see the world. It is the gift of your very self. It is also the best gift you can receive from a loved one. Taking the time and effort to share with your loved ones brings the following benefits.
1. The Blessing and Comfort of Understanding
What you share reveals more of your inner world to your loved ones. By listening to you, they will come to understand you much better. They will appreciate how you see things and what you like. They will know the reasons behind your actions and choices. In time, they might be able to see the world through your eyes because they know you that well. One of the greatest blessings and comforts in life is to have people who understand you and vice versa.
2. Strengthens Bonds and Deepens Relationships
I am sure all of us have had positive influences from our loved ones. While we may not fully embrace their passion for something, we cannot look at that same thing with indifference either. After all, it reminds us of the person. Let us say that someone close to you has a passion for cooking. In the unlikely event that you eat to live like me, you will still associate cooking and food with that person and remember it fondly. You might even have a favourite dish that you enjoy.
Your influence remains with your loved ones once you share that part of yourself and vice versa. This deepens bonds and strengthens relationships because it forms another connection. If we cannot share our inner worlds with the people we love, with whom will we share it? So share often and connect more.
3. Enriches Experiences
When we gain new insights about something, it deepens our understanding and enriches our experience. It is the same with sharing a memory or event. When we share our inner worlds, it gives people a deeper perspective. Done well, they will see the event through our eyes. And if it was a shared experience, this further sharing will deepen and enrich that memory. This in itself also creates another beautiful memory and experience.
How to Share Your Inner World
Sharing your inner world may or may not come naturally to you. But in truth, there is no right or wrong way to go about it. So there is no need to be shy or self-conscious about it. It may require some practice, but you will get better in time. Always remember to provide a background for what you are sharing. Something that makes perfect sense to you may not make any sense to others if they do not know what happened before. If you are having trouble expressing yourself, you may use the following guidelines as needed.
-Why was the memory or event special to you?
-What was so special about the memory or event?
-What makes this memory or event different from others?
-How did it make you feel?
-How did you past experiences in life influence this memory or event?
All we have in life are moments. We never know which moment may be our last. So seize the moments to create beautiful memories and experiences. Seize the moments later to share further to enrich past memorable events. Aim to have your loved ones see things through your eyes. Aim to see the world through the eyes of your loved ones. Share and listen well. Who knows what chain of events this sharing together will set off? It may lead to even more memories and bonds together.
Do you share your inner world with your loved ones? How do you do so? What was the experience like? Did it deepen and strengthen bonds? Do share your thoughts and comments below!