Mar 202012
 
Sunrise by Winchild

Most people prefer to have good fortune to misfortune. When things go well, they hope it will remain this way forever. But things rarely stay good for long. Once you have achieved a cherished goal and reached the top of the hill, there is nowhere else to go but down. But is misfortune inevitable? The answer is no. There are ways to prolong good fortune, but you have to make an effort to do so.
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Feb 212012
 
Happy People by Mike Cogh

Have you ever said the wrong thing at the wrong time and place? What did it cost you? Have you ever regretted what you said once you faced the consequences of your words? What did you have to do to make amends? How did saying the wrong thing affect your relationships?

We could avoid many problems in life if only we were more tactful. Being tactful involves not only what we say, but how and when we say it. To understand the importance of being tactful, let us examine tactfulness in detail first.
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Jan 172012
 
Sharing their Inner Worlds by Horton Group

The way we perceive and remember events is unique to us. Two people can share a unique and pleasant experience together and yet walk away with different memories of that event. Let us say that a couple had a wonderful date together. This does not mean that they will have the exact same view or memories of events. Their memories might focus on different parts of the date that matters to them. As time passes, they might remember the date in different ways for different reasons.

Memories are unique. It links our past, present and future together with all those who are a vital part of our lives. But the sad truth is that no one will really know what our full thoughts and memories are except ourselves. That is unless we do something about it.
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Jan 092012
 
Tears by Erickson Ocampo

This morning, a dear friend of mine returned to the States. I will probably not see her for some time and it causes me deep anguish. Separation from people you are close to is never easy. Yet pain is something we all have to deal with at one point or other in our lives. While pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. The sooner we get through the healing process, the sooner we will be able to let go of our pain. Here are the steps that I took to manage my pain.
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Nov 222011
 
Sensing the Tao by Halofan943

Before I can write about how to manage the Tao of a situation, I feel it is good to share how one can be aware of the Tao. This question came up in my previous article on the Tao of Fish and Chips. It is a habit and a curiosity of mine to try to see to the core of situations that interest me. As such, my radar is on when it is important. If it is not, sometimes I notice the Tao and at other times, I do not.

As I said before, the Tao need not be an abstract or esoteric concept. It is practical to be aware of it if you wish to make the best choices in a given situation. Here then is the approach I take to be more aware of the Tao.
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Oct 182011
 
Keeping Abreast of Relevant Changes by BBC World Service

Complacency can happen even to the best of us. During times of adversity, the dangers of complacency are obvious and so we are alert and on our toes to survive. But it is the times of success and the period of ease that follows, which can become our undoing. In theory, we are aware of the dangers of complacency. We know that we must not let our guard down. Heck, we even know that security is an illusion. But still, we fall prey to complacency at the worst possible times. How then do we manage complacency during a time of success and ease?
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Jul 062011
 
Elephant without the Blind Men by http2007

The Blind Men and an Elephant

A long time ago, a king asked six blind men to discern what an elephant looked like by feeling different parts of its body. The blind man who felt its leg concluded that the elephant was like a pillar. Another who felt its tail surmised that it was like a rope. The one who felt its trunk said it was like a tree branch. The man who felt its ear said the elephant was like a hand fan. Feeling the elephant’s belly, another blind man sagely replied that the elephant was like a wall. Lastly, the one who felt its tusk said it was like a solid pipe.

The king acknowledged that they were all right, but only partially so. He then explained that each of the blind men had touched a different part of the elephant. But in truth, the elephant was the sum of all of those parts.
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Jun 232011
 
Ripples by Robin_24

Our lives are the sum of our choices. Each choice that we make, whether it is big or small, shapes and determines our lives. The most obvious result of our choices is the impact it has on us. But our choices can also have an impact the lives of others, especially our loved ones.

When you drop a pebble into the water, it creates a ripple expansion that radiates outwards. Similarly, the impact from our choices also radiates outwards, affecting the world around us for better or for worse. Good choices bring joy and blessings into our lives. Poor choices on the other hand, haunt us internally as regrets and externally as problems. Hence, we must be careful of the choices we make and the impact they have.
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Mar 302011
 
Quarrel by Jonah Sng

I have been watching my favourite drama serial Return of the Condor Heroes lately. In the course of the show, I noticed that misunderstandings advance the story. For some reason or other, the male and female lovers always seem to get the wrong idea. As a result, they have many partings and reunions. How differently things would have turned out if they had taken the trouble to clarify their doubts.

In one scene, the female lead chances upon her lover while he is putting on a show. His aim is to mediate a conflict between two brothers. But due to the lie he made up, the female lead assumes he no longer loved her and leaves in tears. While the scene makes a very dramatic story, it is just as easy for us to get the wrong idea in real life. What then can we do to avoid misunderstandings?
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Mar 052011
 
Cherry Blossoms by Charley Lhasa

Impermanence is a favourite topic of Sandra’s. It is also something that is constantly at the back of my mind. Whether it is looking at cherry blossoms, reading or watching historical epics, I am always aware of the presence of impermanence. Yet it is not something that is necessarily bad. It is merely a part of this life. When there is a heavy storm, getting upset serves little purpose. All we can do is to adjust our actions to manage the situation. It is the same with impermanence. When we appreciate its value and place in this world, we can learn to manage it more effectively.
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