One of the worst things that can happen when you fail is to personalize failure. This only makes an unpleasant situation worse. It becomes harder to avoid taking failure personally when you keep failing. The common conclusion to draw is that you are a failure because of your repeated failures. Nothing is further from the truth. Failure actually shows you the path to success. But to walk this path, you should not take failure personally. Read on to find out why.
Failure is a Natural Part of Success and Life
Failure is a natural part of success and life. Every child has to make mistakes, fall and fail before he or she learns to walk and run. Without these mistakes, the child can never succeed. The most crucial part of this process is that a child never takes failure personally. A child doesn’t know the meaning of the word failure and this is why the child succeeds. If you approach failure without taking it personally, success is only a matter of when.
Failure is Part of the Process That Leads to Success
Failure is part of the process that leads to success. The process of success involves completing the necessary steps to succeed. If failure occurs, it means that a flaw has happened somewhere along the process. The practical thing to do to succeed is to find that flaw and correct it.
Failure Refines Your Methods
Few people succeed on their first attempt. They usually have to try many times before they finally find out how to succeed. But throughout their failures, they are constantly refining their methods. Failure is a tool to show you what works and what doesn’t. It separates the useful from the useless. By keeping the good and eliminating the bad, you will find the best way to succeed. In fact, the more you fail, the stronger your foundation for success becomes.
Failure is a Reminder to Focus on the Solutions
Failure is a reminder. It serves to remind you to focus on the solutions, not the failure itself. This is the only way to deal with failure and succeed. If you take failure personally, you will be too busy harping on the problem instead of looking for a solution. This causes a temporary setback to become a permanent failure.
Failure Keeps Your Expectations Realistic
Failure keeps you grounded. There are times when you fail purely because your expectations were unrealistic. This is not a true failure in itself, but merely an error in judgement. Now that you know what you can and cannot expect from your efforts, you will not make that same error again.
Failure is the Best Teacher in Life
Many people shun and avoid failure. But failure is actually the best teacher you can have in life. True, the lessons that failure teaches are not always easy. But nothing in life comes easy. If success truly matters to you, then failure is the price you have to pay for lessons. Be aware though that you may have to take a few modules before you graduate. Since there is no such thing as a free lunch, pay your dues early and succeed.
You should not take failure personally because it is feedback that will help you to succeed. Instead you should learn from your mistakes and failures. By doing so, you will have the hard earned insights needed to get things right on your subsequent attempts.